A mini-reunion it was the day before. Many little assemblage there was. Amongst I realize, a friendship is similar to a road. It greatly reminds me of the literature – “The Road not taken” by Robert Frost. Assembling life where we each begin our journey of our own from different starting point. With little do we know the journey ahead. Though some traffic lights some time and along the journey, some police traffics placed along the side of the road and some road signs built. Before independent, many are coached. Some, without coaches, begins the journey on their own. Venturing into the unknown, we sometimes tries hard to predict the unknown. All kinds of means are utilized.
I once thought that all ship wear and break no matter what, except Friendship. That’s what people say... I’ve come to realize that it doesn’t break that easily, but it is fragile. It is yet fragile, yet it’s not so easily broken. Not so easily broken and yet it changes. Therefore, I think friendship is an amazing and weird thing. Just when friends are together, you thought this will last forever. You thought you could actually lean against each other. Some goes to the extent of making vows, some to the extent of revealing one’s deepest secret to another. So much for Friendship last forever?
We forgot we grow. We change. We adapt to our environment. As we move on to new environment, we make new friends. This is endorsed when we each separate and go into different fields, different countries, different unis, different colleges and different life. We then begin to doubt, are we still his/her BEST friend? Or IS he or she still my BEST friends. What about our current friend? What about our new friend(s)?
Many tell me that they are still very good with their past and current friend. Thats your thinking. What about them? I seemed to doubt that Best friends last forever. I think friends do. But not BEST friend(s). I may be wrong. I was told too that as long as we are pretty much alive, we expect the unexpected.
But at least what I’ve experienced is that, as we live a separate life, we are not so close anymore. We each have new commitments. We each pretty much don’t know what is going on in each other’s life. We each grow at different rate in different environment. How can u say that he/she is your best friend, when you don’t know each other’s life and you don’t go through what each other experiences?
Therefore I personally imagine friendship to be like a journey of life. We each walk at a different pace, different style, different speed, and different tempo. At certain stage of life, we meet up at some junctions, say like you meet some at Kindergarten, then some more junctions at the following crossroad, where u meet in high school, and then some more junctions at the following crossroads where u meet at work place. Perhaps more junctions where you each meet... OR even not meeting at any junctions anymore till the day you are called back to where you come from.