In this darkest night,
Rain has just stopped,
Life is like no hope,
Full of regrets,
Things did,
Can’t be undone,
Words said,
Can’t be condone,
Here I am,
Lonely is alone,
Dignity lost as a friend,
As a family,
Knowing that I am in the darkness,
Wanting light,
But unable to walk out of it,
Crying out to heavens above,
Silence,
Is all I get,
Hope lost,
Unforgivable~
“The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably
Make With Women—
And What To Do About It...”
Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women—And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes...
-By David DeAngelo, Author Of “Double Your Dating”
Ø MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A “Nice Guy”
o “Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them. And guess what? Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you. I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.”
o D’oh! (Gam Dou Tak – Like that also can?)
Ø MISTAKE #2: Trying To “Convince Her To Like You"
o “What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested? Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently. Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!”
o “Never, ever, EVER. You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning". Think about it. If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her? But we all do it. When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind. Bad idea. One that will never work.”
o Not again! Then?
Ø MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission
o Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER. Don't get me wrong here. You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you. But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again. You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval. Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...
o Often are the times when I thought you would please her by actually ask her. But, this one says no~
Ø MISTAKE #4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And Gifts
o When you do these things, you send a clear message:
o "I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".
o Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.
o Another NO! NO?! Wah~ Not easy~ *Shaking head*
Ø MISTAKE #5: Sharing “How You Feel” Too Early In The Relationship With Her
o Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME. An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translates into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month. And guess what? Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.
o That's right. They have EXPERIENCE. They know what to expect. And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates. This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.
o Noob me~ makes me feel lagi NOOB O.O
Ø MISTAKE #6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women
o Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around? Think about it. Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.
o Somehow, I do agree to this *nodding vigorously* (What? Cannot meh?!)
Ø MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks
o One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age. And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things. But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks. There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...
o This one I know.. hehehe.. heard from seniors la~ :P
Ø MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women
o Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!
o Wookay~ I’ll make sure I WON’T BE a Wussy~ @.@
Ø MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women
o A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking. Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.
o Did u READ THAT!? TEN TIMES! My gosh~ I feel I can’t hide anything already… with my vigorous body language~
Ø MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP
o …
So, how are you guys doing out there? All I can say is I’m 自身难保 。。。
In a courtship, it can sometimes be very confusing. It seems very much that sometimes the other party may be refusing. This is the time when one has to decide whether to march on. Or stay put at current standing position so as to wait for the ‘right timing’ to advance.It is really very tiring. Staying put and without motivation. Just to see no result. It can be very exhausting in spirit. Just like hunting, someone once told me. When hunting the boar, you need to stay as still as possible and wait. Wait. Wait. And wait.
When the boar passes by, Bang! You got it! That’s the time when the hunter return triumphantly with his prize. OR, the hunter may shoot and gave out his position. The hunter may return without prize but only with disappointment, IF he is lucky. If not, the Boar may attack him, and kill him.
Or some more contemporary thoughts may go arguing that one should take the advancement and resist the negative thoughts. This, I call – perseverance. But, to my thought, I was thinking, isn’t it annoying when the person you just want to be friends keep advancing at me? Isn’t it annoying?
This is when; some would call for the ‘fishing technique’. You roll and let loose. Roll and let loose the fishing line. So, when do you actually let loose and when is the time when u actually pulls hard? Just as when you are to implement the ‘let loose’ strategy, the other party needs your attention. And just when you are about to implement the ‘pull hard’ strategy, the other party seems un-responding.
So, what? Do nothing? Do something? I’m confused…
So, what is it really this true love is? The bible did mention what Love is…
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
—I Corinthians 13:4-8a (NIV)
I suppose Love cannot be described by words. Action speaks louder than words! It was said that when people ask Jesus how much does God love me? Jesus stretched His hands and died on the cross.
However, for us, human being human, how do we die for one another? It’s easy to say, till death do us apart. But, till criticism, till money matters, till the time of trials, many go apart. IS that what we call un-true love? But in our heart we still say, yes, I LOVE him/her. Isn’t it a conflict? At the end of the day, the question goes; do we really love ourselves more or the other person? 
I guess, the time has not come to when I myself hasn’t really been involve in a relationship to really understand the meaning of Love. So, God Please so help me!
