Glad

Recently, many have asked of me to update my blog. Of course first of all, I have to apologize for being absent in presenting any of my thoughts. And though due to my 5 weeks of absence in updates, I am indeed glad that many of my fellow readers are still here checking in once in a while to see if I have updated. While some cease to check it so often that they fixed a tracker to inform them as soon as I have updated my blog. Either way, I am grateful for their patience and love in anticipating my update.

Indeed many has occurred and many incidents have taken place. Through that, many inspirations have come and go. What a waste, I truly thought a point. But, what to do, Life’s brief candle. As I have shared particularly with a friend. That has got to be one of the best literature I can still recollect from my high school bench syllabus. I can’t help but to post it here and remind my fellow mates about it.


Tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow,
Creeps in this petty pace from day to day
To the last syllable of recorded time,
And all our yesterdays have lighted fools
The way to dusty death. Out, out, brief candle!
Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage
And then is heard no more; it is a tale
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
Signifying nothing.




Taken from Macbeth V.v.19-28 by William Shakespeare




Certainly many of us are familiar with the meaning from interpretation by our fellow linguists in the education field. But, the poem seems resounding in life. Not my life particularly, but in lives of those who have chooses to end their life. What a sad drama when people have nothing more that they can stay for, they chose to end their life.
I am putting forth this reflection of my upon a series of case of suicide that has taken place in recent month. Some may think they are stupid, or some may say they are brave. I am sure there are a series of plot behind the scenes which many not know. Is life really nothing but just struts and frets by a poor player upon the stage and tall tale told by an idiot with full of sound and fury and then is heard no more?

That leads to the core of today’s post. I personally don’t think so. At least… Then, what on earth are we here for then? That, I leave it to the audience to solve. Perhaps my recommendation on the book, Purpose driven life by Rick Warren, would be of great reference. In simple, for everything that happens and its there, know it. There’s a reason behind it. We may not be able to contain it now, but, take a pinch of faith; we will be able to comprehend it perhaps sometimes later in life. Familiar? Yes, I have heard it since I was young. I once asked my dad, how come suddenly I have a younger sister, when mom was at hospital after delivering my younger sister. And the answer I always get? You’ll know it when u grow up… Gladly I understand it now…  Till then… Thanks for reading~

Horizontal or Vertical

In my Today’s Prime time with God, I came across something which I think resounds with our daily life. It reflects what we often encounter, especially with people whom we interacts daily. Being a Christian, my Father for one always reminds me of the identity I bore. I don’t know if any of you have had any encounter where, you just take things into your own hand and try to settle it, what I call ‘my way’.

In the Prime time with God, they call it the horizontal way. That’s where I try to settle things my way. Trying to solve the problem with my reasoning and natural capabilities. The vertical way? It’s what Prime time with God call the ‘God’s way’, where a total reliance on God for resolution. Madness it may sound at times, but the second we insist that we take things into our own hand, God stands still and quiet and watch us fail until we seek Him. We insisted. Remember?

Though I am in no position to talk about parenthood, but I do get a glimpse what my parents try to express sometimes (usually after the complications). They try to tell us, “It’s the wrong way. This way” and we reject it and insist it on our own way. Not till we bump the dead-end, we won’t ask for help. BUT… The wonder of it, our parents are always there to help. Thanks Mom and Dad! Happy Father’s Day~

Kurang Skill

In the recent events of life, I have noticed a particular pattern of my social life. It is in this bustling urban place, full of people from different kind walk of life, I think am getting particularly less skillful at socializing already. Initially, thinking the more I commune, the more skillful I will be. It is however not.

Social seems to be a difficult thing for me. It wasn’t easy as it seems to me before anymore. Often finding myself in the wrong place, wrong timing and wrong words. Questions start to appear. Asking whether is it I have been staying too long and too often with the same group of people? So long and often that I have taken them for granted.

In a group of socializing unit, there are sure to be group of people who talks and there are sure group of people who are listeners. I particularly being a talker of course, play my role as a talker. However, at times, I do find myself in a complicated situation where people find me annoying. Some may suggest that I stay quiet some of the times. As for those who know me, if I ever stay quiet, something must have gone terribly wrong.

In this knotty situation, I have learnt that as we grow older, it is wise to only keep quiet and not talk too much. Even someone whom you thought you may relax and be easy with, may anytime be a complete stranger to you.

The Scent of the air

In this season of busyness, I have noticed many happenings surrounding me. The struts and frets of life have numbed me. Especially at this crucial moment of exam somber. Through these crucial moments, I have noticed some people surrounded by the scent of love in the air. Some stinking stench of hatred whiles some others, troubled by the unknown aura in the air. Still pondering and mulling over the circumstances they face.

I myself for one am trying to sort out my own affair. Running out of breath, love seems something at a distant shore. A relationship is nowhere to be seen at all. Admiring someone is of course still familiar. Favoring being favoring doesn’t bring any difference compared to admiring an actress on movie~

With that, this lights up the issue of having, being and with. With the Chinese proverbs resounding my mind, (有也烦，没有也烦) apparently, meaning… having and without both causes stress. It is particularly true I suppose. By having a relationship, it causes one to stress. Sometimes it can be very rewarding, but it does come with a price.

As for those who don’t have, are probably free and independent. However, without another counterpart sharing the journey of life. Human being human, are afraid of loneliness. Somehow? Some may say, friends and family. However, don’t family and friends have their limit. Some part of life, they just can’t fulfill their role in it?

A lot of the time, people tend to say, ‘you will have one when you are ready’ or ‘if it’s yours, it will be yours’. But yet again, when is it time? How do you know if you are ready if you never take the step further? And also… If it is yours, and you don’t take any effort in it, will it still be yours?

Remorse

In this darkest night,

Rain has just stopped,

Life is like no hope,

Full of regrets,

Things did,

Can’t be undone,

Words said,

Can’t be condone,

Here I am,

Lonely is alone,

Dignity lost as a friend,

As a family,

Knowing that I am in the darkness,

Wanting light,

But unable to walk out of it,

Crying out to heavens above,

Silence,

Is all I get,

Hope lost,

Unforgivable~

D’OH! MistakeS!

As I was contemplating about where I stand… Being a marketing student… We always talk about marketing strategy… Positioning myself against competitor… Well, while contemplating.. seeking for answers… there is this particular link on top of my gmail. I don’t really know what you call it.. if I’m not mistaken, it’s called RSS Feed. Well, anyway… I just feel like sharing this.. to all the guys out there~ I dunno how true is this.. but.. it’s quite true to me.. and I’ve made 8! 8 MISTAKES out of 10!!! Can you believe it! Geez.. That just show what a poor guy I am at BGR~ :S

“The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably
Make With Women—
And What To Do About It...”

Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women—And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes...

-By David DeAngelo, Author Of “Double Your Dating”

Ø MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A “Nice Guy”

o “Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them. And guess what? Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you. I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.”

o D’oh! (Gam Dou Tak – Like that also can?)

Ø MISTAKE #2: Trying To “Convince Her To Like You"

o “What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested? Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently. Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!”

o “Never, ever, EVER. You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning". Think about it. If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her? But we all do it. When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind. Bad idea. One that will never work.”

o Not again! Then?

Ø MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission

o Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER. Don't get me wrong here. You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you. But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again. You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval. Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...

o Often are the times when I thought you would please her by actually ask her. But, this one says no~

Ø MISTAKE #4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And Gifts

o When you do these things, you send a clear message:

o "I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".

o Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

o Another NO! NO?! Wah~ Not easy~ *Shaking head*

Ø MISTAKE #5: Sharing “How You Feel” Too Early In The Relationship With Her

o Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME. An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translates into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month. And guess what? Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.

o That's right. They have EXPERIENCE. They know what to expect. And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates. This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.

o Noob me~ makes me feel lagi NOOB O.O

Ø MISTAKE #6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women

o Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around? Think about it. Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.

o Somehow, I do agree to this *nodding vigorously* (What? Cannot meh?!)

Ø MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks

o One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age. And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things. But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks. There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...

o This one I know.. hehehe.. heard from seniors la~ :P

Ø MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women

o Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!

o Wookay~ I’ll make sure I WON’T BE a Wussy~ @.@

Ø MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women

o A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking. Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.

o Did u READ THAT!? TEN TIMES! My gosh~ I feel I can’t hide anything already… with my vigorous body language~

Ø MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP

o …

So, how are you guys doing out there? All I can say is I’m 自身难保 。。。

Advance? Or retreat?

In a courtship, it can sometimes be very confusing. It seems very much that sometimes the other party may be refusing. This is the time when one has to decide whether to march on. Or stay put at current standing position so as to wait for the ‘right timing’ to advance.

It is really very tiring. Staying put and without motivation. Just to see no result. It can be very exhausting in spirit. Just like hunting, someone once told me. When hunting the boar, you need to stay as still as possible and wait. Wait. Wait. And wait.

When the boar passes by, Bang! You got it! That’s the time when the hunter return triumphantly with his prize. OR, the hunter may shoot and gave out his position. The hunter may return without prize but only with disappointment, IF he is lucky. If not, the Boar may attack him, and kill him.

Or some more contemporary thoughts may go arguing that one should take the advancement and resist the negative thoughts. This, I call – perseverance. But, to my thought, I was thinking, isn’t it annoying when the person you just want to be friends keep advancing at me? Isn’t it annoying?

This is when; some would call for the ‘fishing technique’. You roll and let loose. Roll and let loose the fishing line. So, when do you actually let loose and when is the time when u actually pulls hard? Just as when you are to implement the ‘let loose’ strategy, the other party needs your attention. And just when you are about to implement the ‘pull hard’ strategy, the other party seems un-responding.

So, what? Do nothing? Do something? I’m confused…